Here we are in the third week of the four part series, “Your Move,” and we are talking about decision making. Specifically we are asking four questions that will help us make the best decision when don’t EXPECT to make a decision or perhaps when we don’t WANT to make a decision or when time is short. We are learning about this through the stories of actual people as recorded in the books of the Bible. This topic has been relevant for thousands of years just as it is today, because we all have had to make decisions and we all have decisions we’d like to go back and change. There are contracts we wished we hadn’t signed, people we wish we wouldn’t have trusted or dated or married. There were opportunities we passed up that we wish we could go back and take. And there are steps we took that we wish we could un-take. Relationships, jobs, business ventures, investments, personal matters, cars, houses, other purchases – these all fall into the decisions we’re addressing. These decisions are hard enough, but the unexpected or the rushed decisions are often the hardest.
So the first week we asked the very telling question, “Am I being completely honest with myself?” Another way to ask it is “why am I doing this, really?” This question is meant to help us filter through all the baggage and emotions and become as transparent as possible with ourselves and our motivations. It may be the hardest question. That’s why we must learn to ask it FIRST.
Then last week Pastor Angelo did a great job with the second question we should ask in these unforeseen circumstances of decision making, “What story do I want to tell?” Through the story of Joseph’s life in ancient Egypt we learned that our life story is being written with every decision that we make. And if we are wise we will learn, as Joseph did, to consider what story our life is going to tell and let that define the present decision as well as our future ones. This is not easy, especially with decisions we didn’t expect nor want to make. But it is critical that we use wise decision making in all of life.
There are two more questions we will add to the mix – today and next week. But all of these questions have some of the same issues surrounding them – our humanity. Let me explain what I mean. Often we lean toward a certain choice or option, latching onto it emotionally because it seems to offer us one of three things: pleasure, power, or profit. These things appeal to the basest part of our humanity – we call it our heart. When we have to make quick or unexpected decisions it is this base, our heart, that often kicks in first. The problem is, as the writer of Proverbs taught us in the first week, our hearts are deceitful and exceedingly wicked. Not to mention that no one can control or tame them. Our hearts will always move us towards pleasure, power, or profit. This is the internal struggle we have every time there are decisions to be made. Thankfully there is hope. And today we are going to talk about that part of the human condition and how to temper it with hope. Today’s question is this - “Is there a tension that needs my attention?”
There’s no need to define “tension” is there? I didn’t think so. We all have it. We all sense it. It is not unfamiliar to any of us. Tension can cause mental issues, emotional issues, and physical issues. But tension is not all bad. Tension can be an asset. It can warn us of danger, call us to positive action, or keep us from making…bad decisions. That’s the part we are most interested in today. When we have to make a decision, especially in a rushed or unfamiliar environment, we NEED tension as a checkpoint. You know what I’m talking about. You think you’ve got a handle on the answer and you’re ready to pull the trigger, yet there might be a little something in the back of your mind that wants to hold you back. There’s a little question mark somewhere and that produces tension. THIS is a tension that needs our attention. What do we do with that?
And there are many times we lean toward a specific option or choice and we sense a degree of tension that’s rooted in a moral or ethical issue. We might think of it as a “red flag,” or “a twinge of conscience.” Something doesn’t seem exactly right and this makes us hesitate. Sometimes we don’t sense the tension until someone else makes us aware of an issue involved. Or we might be aware of the tension, yet try to discount or ignore it. No matter what, whenever we face such tension, it’s best to pause and allow it to rise up and become as “big” as it can possibly get. Otherwise we might end up at a place we later regret. We let it get big by considering all the potential results. We take time to consider the whole issue in a logical manner. We’re so easily tempted to disregard the tension because we get emotionally attached to a certain option or choice. That emotion acts like adrenaline and adds momentum to the direction we want to go. That’s why we need to force ourselves to pay attention to the tension.
In 1 Samuel 24, an incident in the life of a young man named David illustrates this kind of tension. You remember David – the little shepherd boy? Right? One day while David was tending to his father’s sheep one of the servants came to get him. A prophet of God had arrived and wanted to meet all his father, Jesses’, sons. David was the youngest and initially overlooked by his own father. But, in the end, it was David that this prophet anointed with oil and declared to be the next king of Israel. Then they sent him back to tend the sheep. Nothing changed for young David until the the Philistine warrior, Goliath, challenge Israel’s army to a duel. There were no takers – until little David arrived. The Bible said God had empowered him in a special way to defeat this giant – and so he did, with one smooth stone and a slingshot.
The current king of Israel, King Saul, liked the boy. Saul’s son, Jonathan, and David became fast friends. Saul made David a part of his army over time. But as David’s exploits under Saul’s command became more and more famous, Saul became more and more jealous. He was prone towards violent outbursts with spears and things, directed at the young man who faithfully served him. Finally, the situation became so bad, that David had to flee for his life with the help of Jonathan, King Saul’s son. David became a fugitive in the land despite his private anointing by the prophet and the promise that he would one day be king. That scenario did not seem very likely.
Now David had a group of guys from the army that believed in him and followed him into exile. Their loyalty was unsurpassed and they were called David’s Mighty Men in the Bible. One day while they were being hunted down by Saul and about 3000 men, they were hiding in some caves. The army was passing through the area looking for the fugitives. That’s where our story really becomes relevant to our question of today, “Is there a tension that needs my attention?” Let’s read this story.
1 Samuel 24:1-8 1 After Saul returned from fighting the Philistines, he was told that David had gone into the wilderness of En-gedi.
2 So Saul chose 3,000 elite troops from all Israel and went to search for David and his men near the rocks of the wild goats.
(I guess that must have been a pretty well known place to get mentioned here.)
3 At the place where the road passes some sheepfolds, Saul went into a cave to relieve himself.
And, yes, I know that if you are a boy, between the ages of 9 and 49, this is the only part of the sermon you will remember. Because you’ve never heard someone say, ‘relieve himself’ in church before. So there you go, now you’ve heard it, let’s move on.
But as it happened, David and his men were hiding farther back in that very cave!
So here’s the scene. Saul and his thugs are out searching for David and his men – really out of jealousy not out of justice. And King Saul calls for everyone to stop so he can, how should we say, take care of business? Hey, he was a middle aged man at this time and they were traveling, so that necessitates a stop! That means everyone else had to stop and wait for the king. And where do they stop but at the very cave where David and his men were hiding. How perfect is that? I mean, the planets have all aligned, the stars are pointing the way, fate has set up this moment. There’s practically an epiphany right before David’s eyes. What are the chances that Saul would need a cave at that moment? And what are the chances that this would be the cave that David and his men were hiding in? And what would be the possible odds that Saul entered the cave, completely alone, far enough back that David had better access to him than Saul’s own men did? It’s pretty staggering. So, like all good friends and soldiers, David’s men got involved – verse 4,
4 “Now’s your opportunity!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today the LORD is telling you, ‘I will certainly put your enemy into your power, to do with as you wish.’” You can feel the electricity in the air. David now has the opportunity to make a decision he didn’t ever think he’d have to make. His heart is pounding, his men are prodding him, and the heaven’s have declared his victorious ascension to the throne. Think about it. Saul, the first King of Israel, enters a cave in his royal robe and crown. A few minutes later David comes out in the same robe and crown with King Saul’s head in his hand for effect. THAT’S a story worth telling. That’s the way things happened in those times, anyway. Why WOULDN’T God let things happen this way for the man He sent His prophet to anoint as the future king? Why wouldn’t this be the perfect situation? Saul is the King, David kills the King, David becomes the Kind. The armies bow in awe of David and the Kingdom is secured without additional bloodshed. How could this NOT be the plan? Emotion and circumstance is a hard thing. Friendly encouragement in the name of God is hard to ignore.
But what if this is not the plan? What is the guarantee that David walks out of the cave as a victor and is declared king? What if he just becomes known as the guy who KILLED the king. What says that the army will bow at his feet and follow him? What if they simply turn and kill him in defense of the rightful king of Israel? There are no guarantees. Despite all the signs, despite the stars aligning, despite the encouragement of his own men, there are NO guarantees that this is the right move. So, because David is attuned to what God is up to, there is this tension that wells up within him just as he is crawling up to kill King Saul. And he changes the plan mid-course.
So David crept forward and cut off a piece of the hem of Saul’s robe.
“Noooooo.” You can hear the collective groan of his men. “How could you let him slip through your fingers? Are you a man or what?” “God promised you would be the king!” Those are the sounds of a well intentioned, deceived hearts. Then, in their eyes, it gets worse.
5 But then David’s conscience began bothering him because he had cut Saul’s robe.
Now they’re rolling their eyes at him, “You’ve got to be kidding! You feel guilty for cutting a piece of his robe? You really need to get some mojo back.”
6 “The LORD knows I shouldn’t have done that to my lord the king,” he said to his men. “The LORD forbid that I should do this to my lord the king and attack the LORD’s anointed one, for the LORD himself has chosen him.”
David’s conscience was correct. In those days even his act of cutting off that piece of robe was seen as an act of treason. He HAD attacked the king, even though he did not kill him or harm him. David knew that this was not the time or the place for the changing of dynasties, so David chose to pay attention to the tension. His men still could not believe it. They said to him, “Man, if you’re not going to do it, we will. Let us at him. Then they can’t blame you. Let them blame us!” I’m not sure how Saul didn’t hear all the commotion and arguing even if they did whisper. But David wouldn’t let them kill Saul. He knew the right thing to do. He CHOSE to pay attention to the tension.
7 So David restrained his men and did not let them kill Saul. After Saul had left the cave and gone on his way, 8 David came out and shouted after him, “My lord the king!”
And when Saul looked around, David bowed low before him.
Then David said to him, “King Saul. I’m not your enemy. I don’t know who you’ve been listening to but you have nothing to fear from me. God made you the King. And I honor you as the King. See this piece of your robe? I could have killed you, but I didn’t. Please believe me and spend you time ruling Israel instead of chasing someone as insignificant as me. Let God judge between us and let that be that.
1 Samuel 24:16-20 16 When David had finished speaking, Saul called back, “Is that really you, my son David?” Then he began to cry.
17 And he said to David, “You are a better man than I am, for you have repaid me good for evil.
18 Yes, you have been amazingly kind to me today, for when the LORD put me in a place where you could have killed me, you didn’t do it.
19 Who else would let his enemy get away when he had him in his power? May the LORD reward you well for the kindness you have shown me today.
20 And now I realize that you are surely going to be king, and that the kingdom of Israel will flourish under your rule.
Not too many chapters later in Samuel’s book King Saul is in a battle and the enemy archers shoot a barrage of arrows at the Israeli army. One of those arrows found King Saul, passed through a separation in his armor and mortally wounded him. Not wanting to be killed by the enemy, Saul fell on his sword and died. THEN David became King – arguably the greatest King to ever rule Israel. So that’s the story. While a fugitive on the run from King Saul, David was handed a perfect opportunity to kill him, but his conscience prevented him from doing so. Instead, David put the matter almost entirely into God’s hands, leaving the cave with only a scrap of cloth. He let his conscience prevail. He paid attention to the tension.
One of the pastors I most admire in the world, Dr. Charles Stanley, made this statement one time. It’s become a clarion call for people all over the world. He said, “God takes full responsibility for the life wholly devoted to him.” That’s something David believed, as evidenced by his actions. He trusted God for the outcomes of his life. No, he didn’t leave strategy and advice behind. He didn’t stop thinking logically about the situation. This was one of many decisions that he, like us, either didn’t want to make or didn’t think he’d ever have to make. In the end, when the decision had to be made, he listened to his God-given conscience; he paid attention to the tension.
What do you think would have happened if David had killed Saul? Where would he have been by this chapter? Would HE have been the one the arrow wounded? Would God have honored him as the anointed king if he has surreptitiously murdered Saul? The decision to pay attention to the tensions in life is not easy. In fact, it is quite hard at times. But, compared to the enormity of the unknown, isn’t it better to fight through the urge to avoid the tension and begin to address whatever questions surround our decisions? Actively working through tension is an act of faith for a follower of Christ. Your willingness to address the tension of a situation – at work, at home, with a co-worker, a spouse, with your children, whomever – your willingness is an act of faith that God really is in control, that God really does know more than we know and that God really does have our best interests at heart.
Whether we expected to make a decision or not ACTUALLY becomes irrelevant. The only relevant thing is will we listen for that still, small voice of God’s Spirit to guide us through the tensions of life? Will we pay attention to the tension? When we fail to do what David did, we risk being left on our own by God. But instead of taking that risk, and especially since we can never really know the future, we need to entrust our lives to the only One who does know the future. God cares about you and your family even more than you do. God cares about growing your faith and loves to give you wise direction. Lean on Him. Ask Him.
So starting this week, here’s what I want us all to commit to doing – actively doing
1. Before we finalize our decisions, it’s wise to ask ourselves, “Is there a tension that needs my attention?”
2. Let the tension become as big as it can get, so we can fully consider it before making our decisions.
3. Trust God to give you the wisdom to make the best decision.
Asking that question, following these steps, allows us to avoid making decisions that we might later regret. And we all know about that, don’t we? Let’s pray.
Dear God,
I readily admit that I like to be independent. I like to make my own decisions. We all do. Would you help us take this step of faith to question the tensions we feel and rely on you to direct our decisions. Thank you for knowing the future and being willing to guide us through it. Thank you for loving us that much. In Jesus name, Amen.
Blessing: May the peace of Christ that surpasses all human understanding guide your hearts this week. And may the power of the Holy Spirit within you, given you the power for each decision you face. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.